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self esteem

Jun 2nd, 3:54 PM

I always thought self esteem referred to a sort of self image that related to the way you looked and how you felt about how you looked.

Today I learned A LOT about self esteem and it's only my second day of taking a course on it.

As it turns out, I was a bit far off of what I knew. While certainly self image is part of it, that is only one part.

Self Esteem is your relationship with yourself. It consists of tracking/tuning into yourself and your likes, compassion for yourself, patience for yourself and even a bit of breathing.

It was pointed out to me that we tell ourselves things in our self-relationship that we wouldn't tell other people. For example, "I am a failure because of x." Most of us wouldn't turn to our best friend and tell them they are a huge failure. Or tell them they are ugly, a terrible person, worthless or many of the other mean things we tell ourselves. In fact, most of us spend a great deal of time complimenting our friends, and getting to know them, praising them and working on a fantastic relationship while not doing the same with ourselves!

A lot of this ties in with Self Perception. We experience life through our senses, hearing, seeing, feeling, smelling and how you interpret that is your perception. So what do you know about yourself? Do you take the time to get to know yourself and what your likes and dislikes are? Do you allow others to define you or you to define yourself? If you are in a room with people who like the color blue, do you like the color blue too? Or do you stand up and say hey, honestly, I like the color red. Are you aware of who you are and what you like? It is good to be aware of yourself like you are aware of your friends and celebrate those things. Good and bad. You accept your friends and family for who they are; the good and the bad. So you must do the same with yourself. Acceptance! Don't pretend to be something different, celebrate who you are faults and all.

Of course it isn't' this simple either.

Self Esteem is also tied in with:
Work, School or Volunteering
Family relationships
Friends
Fun
Health
Spiritual Wellness or a Philosophy

Having a crappy job, a bad family relationship, few friends, a lack of fun, poor health (depression) and nothing to guide you in life can really make you unhappy with your yourself. The danger is also how much we allow these things or people to influence our self perception, awareness and self definition. Give too much power to your friends or job or family to define you and you still can end up having an unhealthy self image.

There seems to be a lot to it that I never realized. You can read all of this and agree with it and still not gain an ounce of self esteem a week from now.

Self esteem is like a fruit on a tree. You need fertilizer in the soil (awareness, description and acceptance) to grow the branches (all the tie in's with work, friends, family fun, etc and a good self relationship) to produce the fruit of self esteem. It must be constantly cultivated and nurtured. Not just talked and read about. Get lazy about cultivation and care and the tree will not produce a healthy fruit.

So find something good about yourself every day. Do something nice for yourself every day. Change a negative thought you've had about yourself to a positive spin. Find an area you lack in (friends, family relationships, health) and improve on it one baby step at a time.

Kind of cool!

mood:   energetic

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my homework for class

Jun 1st, 10:21 PM

3 positive things that I notice about myself

1. I always appreciate what people do for me and try to always say an ernest thank you
2. When i put my mind to something, I can go to amazing dedicated lengths to get it
3. I am loyal to a fault

3 Negative things that I notice about myself

1. I am a perfectionist and have less patience and tolerance for myself than for others
2. If I don't want something I can go to amazing dedicated lengths to avoid it.
3. I get very focused on things and lose focus or interest in everything else

mood:   contemplative

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pet food processing

Apr 29th, 11:57 PM

And we wonder why our pets get disease and cancer so much. Check out this article.

http://www.messybeast.com/cat-food-industry.htm

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what would penis do?

Feb 21st, 8:23 PM

Thank you [info]beretta
This is awesome!

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vulcan alberta

Feb 16th, 1:56 AM

I had no idea but in Vulcan Alberta, apparently it's a BYLAW that once a year everyone has to dress up as a Vulcan. Or you get fined. In the least all you have to do is wear the ears.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulcan,_Alberta

At least that was what I was told. It may not be true. But they do have an annual convention called VulCon. I might have to go!

Vulcan has been fighting to get the new Star Trek movie to premiere there. How cute. I hope they get it.

mood:   amused

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birdy studio is back in business!

Feb 7th, 11:05 AM

Birdy Studio presents:


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rocky's first bath

Feb 6th, 6:34 PM

So I finally got Rocky to step up.

Well sort of. The fireplace guy was supposed to come work on the drywall. I was concerned about the dust since B&G Macaws are highly sensitive to dusts of all types. I couldn't get her out of the cage so I toweled her and put her in the carrier and went to school.

Mom took her upstairs and set her near Riven. I guess they stared at each other for a long time LOL When I came home, the drywall guy still hadn't called and I felt bad for Rocky. I let her out of the carrier and she gladly stepped up onto my arm without trying to bite at me. She climbed up onto my shoulder which wasn't cool but I got her onto the cat tree eventually.

She's been perched up there for hours playing with paper, yelling at me and Riven and everyone has been curious and interested. The cats have been kicked out several times. I also got her to step up onto my arm from the tree and gave her a bath. She was quite nervous but she did bathe and we got some photos and a video.

Photos and Video )

mood:   accomplished

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crazy animals

Dec 24th, 1:10 PM





http://media.photobucket.com/video/Parrot%20Pets%20Cat/pbhomepage/video3/kittypettingparrot.flv

mood:   amused

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meteor!

Nov 20th, 8:46 PM

Both mom and I saw this tonight and we were in separate places. It was COOL! It looked like a massive explosion. I phoned her and was like OMG did you see that? She was driving home and said she saw a green meteor streak across the sky. Pretty awesome that thousands of other people saw it too. I was concerned someone's house blew up or something. But it was much higher and wider:

Fireball in the sky lights up Alberta

EDMONTON — A possible meteor lit up both the sky and the telephone lines in Western Canada on Thursday evening.

Around 5:30 p.m., a huge flash of light briefly turned the dark skies into daylight.

Reports of sightings of the light and possibly a fireball came from Edmonton to Regina to Swan River, Man.

People got so excited that RCMP in Lloydminster, on the Alberta-Saskatchewan boundary, issued a news release asking people to stop calling them.

The excitement quickly spread to the scientific community, which was agog with the possibility the fireball might have dropped meteorites to the ground.

“Wow. That’s impressive,” said Chris Herd, associate professor of Earth and Atmospheric sciences at the University of Alberta, when told of the wide geographical swath of reports.

“To see something from that far away, that’s pretty substantial. The potential is that it’s big. That tells you that the meteoroid is probably a good size. There’s a pretty high chance that it dropped meteorites.”

He said that pinpointing the location of any meteorites depends on two factors — people calling in to say they’ve found such space rocks, and people calling to report how far afield the fireball was spotted.

“The more reports that you have into that fireball-reporting ... the more data you have and then people can reduce that data and try and pinpoint where it may have landed.”

He said typically, meteorites fall within a radius of a few kilometres.

The source of the meteor can only be determined once the meteorites are examined, said Heard, who is also curator of a collection of meteorites at the Edmonton university.

“The vast majority of the meteorites that we have, we’re fairly certain, come from the asteroid belt between the orbits of Mars and Jupiter.”

Marcel Gobeil was on his acreage west of Beaumont, Alta., waiting for his wife to come home at the time.

“I just happened to look outside facing east,” he said. “All of a sudden I saw this big flash coming down and I thought somebody was playing tricks on me, like fireworks behind the house or something.

“Just before that I heard a boom. I didn’t know if it was a tree against the house. It was green and blue and it was coming down pretty fast.”

Gobeil said the light display eventually turned orange, yellow and red and lasted 10 seconds.

“I was waiting for it to explode,” he said. “It looked similar to when we watch (news reports) in Afghanistan. When I didn’t see that, I said, ‘well, that’s something from outer space.’ I’m sure it landed way out in Winnipeg or something.”

Gobeil said he only wished he’d gotten a picture of the other-worldly event.

“It’s exciting — both scary and really nice.”

mood:   amused

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evil kitties

Nov 17th, 5:29 PM

Is your cat plotting to kill you?

mood:   amused

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santa!

Nov 17th, 12:56 PM

Riven got her picture taken with Santa yesterday.

It was spca night and the mall was pretty much closed but they were doing an after hours thing for pets. It cost $15 and there was also a raffle for $3 which go towards the local SPCA. I bought both. I'm guessing around 150 people showed or something, and it took the full 2 hours because they had some technical issues. But we got to see a lot of different dogs and cats. Apparently someone brought a snake too. Mine was the only bird and everyone was fairly interested, especially the kids.

When I finally took her out of the carrier right before the photo, she was pretty much freaked out. I held onto her but she tried to fly away several times as she saw Dogs moving and people and stuff. Normally I would have put her on Santa but I couldn't because she was being so nervous. The dogs barking seemed to be the problem, since when I took her to the mall and there were just people, she never got that freaked out. We sat beside Santa and I held her over his knee.

They will email me the photo and I'll post it here later.

mood:   accomplished

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in the rain

Nov 15th, 8:58 PM

I just bought the new Enya CD (seasonal). Here is one of my favorite Enya songs.

mood:   contemplative

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riven fall photography

Oct 4th, 5:03 PM

Yay!

Riven Fall 2008


I think she thought this photoshoot was torture but we managed without having her totally freak out. She did make a light screaming noise twice, which I can only attribute to being very nervous of her surroundings. Wind blowing through trees is scary and stuff. >.> Large bird eating monsters. So I threw my jacket on her a few times to make her feel better. I'm going to try and get more tomorrow if the weather cooperates. That way my mom can hold the leash and I can focus on the camera more.

I'd like to get one of her with a carved pumpkin and one in a tree instead of trying to hide the perch.

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mood:   creative

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arrest that junk in her trunk! (police blotter)

Oct 3rd, 11:05 AM

The Police Blotter this week:

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wtf contest?

Oct 3rd, 10:37 AM

Want to own a 100 year old house in Edmonton for 11 dollars?

Here is the contest.

www.the11dollarhouse.com

mood:   amused

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funny cat videos

Sep 18th, 4:20 PM

I tried to send them by email but the links were getting half erased.


Retarded Cat Jump


Sneaky Cat


Cat vs Printer

mood:   amused

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terry fox run

Sep 15th, 1:13 PM

Every September thousands of people, in 60 different countries, take to the streets to run and to continue the dream of a single man. Who could have inspired such participation and what was his cause? The man was Canadian Terry Fox and the cause was to raise money for cancer research. It began when Terry Fox was diagnosed with osteogenic sarcoma, a form of bone cancer. His right leg was amputated six inches above the right knee.

Always an athlete, once Terry recovered he resolved to run across Canada with the goal of collecting one dollar for every Canadian. Terry began his "Marathon of Hope" on April 12, 1980 as he dipped his artificial foot in the Atlantic Ocean. He hoped to dip the same foot in the Pacific at the end of his run. He also filled two large bottles with Atlantic Ocean water; his plan was to keep one as a souvenir and pour the other one into the Pacific. He also intended to fill another jug of water with water from the Pacific Ocean. He was going to run about 42 km (26.2 miles) a day, the distance of a typical marathon. No one had ever done anything similar to the task Fox was undertaking. However, the grueling pace that Terry set for himself, through rain or shine, was cut short when doctors discovered that cancer had spread to his lungs. He was forced to stop the run on September 1, 1980 just north east of Thunder Bay, Ontario, after 143 days. He had run 5, 273 km (3,339 miles or around 23.3 miles per day).

In June 1981 Terry developed pneumonia and on June 27 went into a coma. He died on the 28th at 4:37am which was his favorite hour of running and one month before his 23rd birthday. However, his dream still came true. The Marathon of Hope collected $24.17 million, enough to have met his goal.

Since his death, Terry's heroic perseverance is honoured through numerous awards and research grants. Funds have continued to be raised for cancer research as more and more people join in the annual run that Terry began. To date, his foundation has raised 360 million towards Cancer research. This year (2008) the run in Red Deer had 300 participants and raised $18,000 alone for the foundation. Terry Fox has also inspired several movies and there are talks of a feature length movie.

You can find out more about the run here: Terry Fox Run

Keep in mind, the marathon is non competitive. It is a family oriented event and does not award prizes for placing. The foundation wants to recognize ALL participants who donate to the cause for cancer, not just those who can run the fastest. It also does not charge an entry fee or allow the event to make a profit or use proceeds to cover costs. It only asks that participants voluntarily donate a minimum of 1 dollar, just like Terry Fox hoped.

In Atlanta, the Terry Fox Run was renamed Four Seasons Run for Research 5K/10K. They technically started a new race because they no longer donate the money to the Terry Fox Fund and they no longer acknowledge the charity or follow it's rules (like no entry fee ($125) and no awards). Emory is the recipient of the funding. But it still happens in September and the money still goes towards a good cause.


Never give up on a dream was written by Rod Stewart in memory of Terry Fox


My goal for next year is that I'd like to run in this race. The last time I ran in it, I was about 10 years old.

mood:   contemplative

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photoshoot

Sep 14th, 9:12 PM

Bob and Carl wanted photos of their marvel costumes a week ago. Here are some shots I took of them:

Carl

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mood:   creative

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the human camera

Sep 11th, 12:56 PM

Holy crap

mood:   artistic

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dragoncon 2008

Sep 1st, 5:20 PM

Dragoncon was as much fun as ever. Yay to the Marriot for being the better hotel.

I got to have a great dinner with the girls on Thursday. MMMM for chicken, mashed potatoes, green beans and chocolate cake split between 6 people LOL

Friday I got to realize just what a huge waste of time costume contests are. But it was my last one for a while so I wanted to remind myself what I wouldn't be missing LOL It served it's purpose well.

Saturday I discovered that the Parade is more fun than ever with a pirate ship float and blaring drinking music. I also got nice photos of my new glam pirate and later on the girls did the best WOW group ever which was hugely successful.

Sunday was great with "girl bonding" over henna, dinner again and a late night party. Dancing to 80's music with a drunk Bob had amusing twists. At 5am when we went to the room, I just about died laughing because Bob almost fell on the bed with Carl and Derek sleeping. He stumbled in, turned around to face me and started bending over backwards and flailing. I had to grab him by his belt to stop him from crashing into their nice sleep. He did it twice. What a goof. Bill also played a joke on us by taping cups and chips to the door. Bob ground all the chips into the carpet. Good job.

Monday was depressing as ever but I love shopping. I got my kitty pendant like the rest of the girls had. I was hoping she'd have a martial arts kitty but she had a pirate kitty yay! And she put martial arts kitty on the list. I also wanted to get a sea shell belt and headpiece with coins on it but I think I'm going to look online since they wanted $57 for one and $35 for the other and I think it was worth way less than that. Oh well, until next time!

Hope you all had fun at the con too. It was great seeing everyone and I can't wait to come back.

mood:   cheerful

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